“And yet they would not hearken unto their judges, but they went a whoring after other gods, and bowed themselves unto them: they turned quickly out of the way which their fathers walked in, obeying the commandments of the LORD; but they did not so.” (Judges 2:17)
A wife cannot tell easily if her husband is entertaining thoughts of an extramarital affair, if his eyes have been captured by another. There are of course very subtle signs that might give the knowledge to her of the possibility that this may possibly be occurring, but she would need to have first understood the demeanor and ways of her husband’s life up until that point for them to be noticed. A godly marriage is built upon a love for Jesus Christ, but all marriages must be built upon the foundation of honesty and communication, if not, that marriage will fail, whether the two of them stay together or not.
Habakkuk was called by God to show the truth to the nation Israel, He had seen those subtle signs, had attempted to let them know of His love for them, and they, as David did in the months following his affair with Bathsheba, were drawn away by their lusts. “Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.” (James 1:15)
One of our adversary’s most powerful weapons rests in the truths of 1 John 2:16, “For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.” The eyes see, and our new nature in Christ turns away, but our flesh does not forget, the mind that serves Christ is battled against nearly constantly by our old nature.
There is no strength in our new nature, we can do nothing without Christ, so for us to attempt by our own will and supposed power to battle the flesh is a battle that will be lost. The traps along the path to hinder sanctification through the Holy Spirit were laid many thousands of years ago by Satan, they did not change, they do not need to be altered, they do not even need to be checked on, Satan can go about his business, our old nature will take it from there. Hedges, the same hedges that the Most High placed around Job are around each of His children, Satan cannot come in, but by our own free will we can go out.
At times of course the Lord forbids us from doing so, and always for His own glory and a love for us, but we are all stiff-necked, when we set our minds to something, we will do all we can to achieve that goal. You must consider this then, is it you new nature or your old nature that is in control of you? “For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.” (Gal. 5:17)
The closer the Lord draws us to Himself, the more subtle the traps become, and it is only by His power and strength that we can notice and then avoid them.
Others were sent by the Lord before Habakkuk to warn the nation of this peril, of these subtle deceits, the new nature that resides within all who are born-again warns the man of the pitfalls ahead, and the way out spoken of in 1 Corinthians 10:13. God always provides a way out.
The desire of the man or woman of God is to see God glorified in their lives, to live a life that is pleasing to the Most High, and that manner comes in the form of willing obedience to His will and Word.
Before any physical affair begins in the marriage, an emotional affair must take place, the emotions are driven by the flesh, our old nature, it desires, as Satan does, “Thou savourest not the things that be of God, but those that be of men.” (Matt. 16:23) Our new nature, that which is placed within all who call Jesus Christ Lord and serve Him as such, fights the battle of those desires that are against the will of God, but not in itself, “I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.” (John 15:5)
The flesh has incredible power in this respect, the mind has none. If we are not relying on the Holy Spirit, we will fall into those traps, we will fail, but Proverbs 24:16 stands as a truth here, “For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief.” You are no longer a slave to sin, but a slave to righteousness, contemplate every action with this in mind before you take any action.