“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” (Gen. 2:18)
Without my beautiful wife, I could not do what the Lord has called me to do at this time in my life, that is not to say that He could not enable me to do so, but the burden I am quite sure after just a short period of time without her would be too great for me to bear.
We share in the daily chores of the house, and although she still enjoys working parttime, she fulfills more of those duties than I do, for what I am called to do requires much of the day, and a good portion of every evening, seven days a week. I could not do so without her.
“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” (Prov. 18:22)
I speak to you men of God who have been called as I have in these last of days, to you who are assured of your calling by the Holy Spirit and the visible fruits of what He has set before you. I could be mistaken here, but I would presume that each of you are also married to a godly woman, and that the two of you have found that you can serve the Most High greater together than you could separately.
If you have read anything of the life of Charles Spurgeon you will know that he spent much time on a sick bed, if you will, with a wife that cared for every one of his needs at those times. And if the Lord has also called you in this manner, I will presuppose that you at times are, if not physically ill, then mentally exhausted much of the time, for the work is indeed heavy. This woman, this lifelong helper, this companion for all of eternity is perhaps the greatest blessing you will ever receive in this life, and a gift from the Lord to be cherished.
Not everyone is so blessed in this area, of which I am sure you are well aware, divorce rates among Christians are nearly as high as among the secular crowd today, animosity, greed, jealousy, self all creeping in slowly, and if we are not constantly vigil and remain in prayer, we also can fall into these same traps. Many God-fearing men have lost good God-fearing wives by allowing themselves to be drawn into the ministry at the expense of their families and have found that what the Lord called them to do was no longer profitable because of that.
There are countless examples of this truth. The balancing act is a precarious one, wife, family, God, and even when we put God first, which we always should, we can wrongfully push our wives off to the side, and if you do so I can guarantee you one thing, she may not leave your side, but she may leave you in her heart.
Whether they will admit it or not, one of the last things that a woman wants is competition for her affections, and that includes the Lord. The godly woman will of course realize this, and while she may attempt to assuage her feelings and thoughts within her on this matter, the curse is upon her. “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” (Gen. 3:16)
Men of God, we have no idea the work that the godly wife does for us, not only in the material sense, but in her heart and soul. Do you know anyone that prays for you as much as she does? Do you know anyone who will stand beside you no matter the circumstances that enter into your life, even unto death and beyond?
I will call every single person in heaven my brothers and sisters in Christ, they will be my forever family, but there is no one ever born that I want to experience eternity with, no one else to spend the joyous times we will have there with. If you are a man of God called by God to glorify His name, and you are married to a godly woman, you understand this letter perfectly.
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” (Prov. 31:10)